When Expectations Shouldn't be Expected

How i learn things the hard way, only to realise that i have reach my 1st 30s that actually learn what the true meaning of expectation....I guess most of us sometimes put Expectation without realising the consequence that lies beneath it...We put expectations on the one we loves,goals or sometimes even friends....To what extend should the level of expectations be?Sometimes we got so engross in it that we actually forgot that it should work both ways..We can go thru miles for someone that we love,be at the back of her call, sacrifice your time and sleep to learn to bake cake for the 1st time for her birthday, ride to her house at 3am with the cake and light it up with candle right in front of her doorstep, jus to surprise her.....n what expectation do i expect from her?noting...well that is what i tot...everything change the moment she forgot to wish me
Happy Birthday...the words i'm sorry i forgot which i still can accept, but the words, i remember but i was too busy to wish u...i was like huh??!!!!!....i was furious, refuse to answer her call or even to reply her smses...it was a total disappointment...it was sad...i don need expensive gifts, all i need is jus a wish, a wish from someone special to brighten up my day n to know that someone do remember me....is that too much to ask?It was disheartening esp from someone who claim i was her best fren and I was the only one that she trust with her life story and I was the only one (other than her bf) that can understand her....so i decide to punish her mistake by giving her the cold shoulder as long as it takes...

Bob knock it out from me...why am i feeling this way? why should i get so mad about not gotten the wish on my special day...He say that i have put expectation on her and yah i realised i did and i guess the expectations was higher for her....when the slightest mistake she did pisst me off...why am i feeling this way??Yes i had feelings for her even tho i know it was impossible n it would never be reciprocrate...feelings=expectations...i should have never set expectation cos knowing that fail expectations=disappointment...

We can know a friend for centuries and sometimes along the way things change...Should expectations toward the friend be changed at the same time? the answer is Yes...Everyone has their own life to lead at the end of the day....They can be there for us everyday for the past 10yrs, but how can we expect them to be here for us 10yrs later??Time changes people and expectations changes with time...Expect the Unexpected for Expectations shouldn't be taken for granted...

Now i have learn that even if i decide to go an extra miles for someone, i shouldn't be expecting anyting in return or having the person to do the same for me or even remember the things i did for them..Before you decide to do an extra miles for someone, ask yourself, wat do u expect out of tis?if its jus a pure friendly help without expectations, by all means go ahead...but if you do expect something out of the impossible, let's save the trouble ya..so now i decide to take things easy, still do set expectation but with limit and at same time be mentally prepare for disappointment...